I learned long ago to treat others as I wish to be treated. This "rule" is in many different writings the first to my knowledge being in the bible as: "do unto others as you would want others to do unto you". For this reason, I have always treated others with kindness, compassion, caring, respect, and careful attention. I try not to offend, ignore, hurt, degrade, take advantage of or commit any other negative actions against others.
In my lifetime I have also learned that I have trusted those who I shouldn't have, I gave and still give the benefit of the doubt, I forgive too easily, I try hard to please others, I put others' needs before my own, I go out of my way to help and make happy, and I keep repeating these same actions and I get the same results; I get walked on so to speak. When I turned 45, 7 - almost 8 years ago, I made a promise to myself that I was going to finally begin living my life on my terms, I was going to be kind to others as I naturally am but I was also going to be kind to myself. My head was ready for that change but my heart and gut said otherwise. Now at 52, almost 53, I have come to the conclusion that no one will treat me as I treat them, they will keep taking whatever I offer - selfishly. My realization is that others want me to treat them as they treat me. I feel so silly thinking I had it right all these years - maybe. People get to a point where they become broken and mentally exhausted and emotionally drained or beaten; I've come to that point. I have seen too closely that life is far too short to not live it fully. Life doesn't wait until we're ready, it doesn't wait until we overcome whatever is in the way of following our dreams and going after them. Life is too short! I have made a promise to myself again, to start living my life as my own individual, as I have longed to live it; by playing hard, working hard, being kind as I am and always will be but not being taken for granted anymore. Do you have similar or different experiences that you wish to change? What are they? In everything we do, in everything that happens to us and every choice we make there are lessons. It's up to us to finally learn the lessons and move forward through our lives making better the things we have gotten caught up in previously. It's up to us personally to not repeat the same things and expect different results. It's up to us to grow from our experiences. It's up to us to move forward a step at a time and to only look back for reference to see how much we have grown and to make better choices moving forward. To the light within you ~ peace.
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My name is Dawn. I'm nutritional & lifestyle coach, hairstylist, home cook, writer, blogger, mother, friend. Archives
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