I've come to truly realize that everything can change in a heartbeat - and if it's in the big plan, it will change.
Not one thing in life is guaranteed, except of course the fact that everything changes. Change has always happened, change will always happen. So, what's the big deal? No kidding, everything changes, so?! Well, the big deal is that we have to learn to move with change; go with the flow of it - like it or not. Change is often a good thing but equally as often, some change doesn't feel good; think of weather related disasters, the loss of a pet, the loss of a loved one, breaking up in a relationship, bad medical diagnosis...the list is endless. How can we deal with those types of changes? For me, I think writing about it in my journal or in my blogs helps me to work through it. When you voice it either to someone or to yourself in the form of writing, meditation and prayer, you allow yourself to get it off your chest and out of your head a little more than if you kept it bottled up. Learning to accept and go with the flow of change is an important step as well. My yogi once told me that there's a lesson in everything and until you learn the lesson, it will keep coming back at you. I've also heard the phrase "energy goes where attention flows" and the more I notice where my energy is, the more I realize that my attention is there too - often bringing personal discord. We live our lives as though they will go as we have them planned. We soon find that most things don't go as we have planned them to be. When I was in high school I has numbers that meant a lot to me; 21 was when I would get married, working a great job, being fully and financially independent, 27 was when I'd have my first child and 33 I would have my second child while still be successful at my job, as a mother and as a wife. None of that happened. As a matter of fact, that was the furthest thing from what actually did happen but I prefer not to go back there again...ever. That experience taught me a lot about life but not a lot about myself until years later. I was timid, shy, scared and had no self-worth. Later on, after more bumps in the road, hell they were more like craters that I fell deep into than bumps but just the same, after all that, I slowly and methodically (through intense counseling) learned that I matter. I also learned well that change happens whether we're ready or not, so I better learn how to work with it instead of against it. Knowing how doesn't mean it's easy to do, it just means it's do-able and helps to keep me/you sane. When things change around you, try to see the big picture, try to see if there's a lesson, try to see the positive side of the situation. Try to think of others that are affected by the situation too and think about supporting them through it as well. You might find that by doing that, it helps you heal and go with the flow of change. Change is to be embraced. Sometimes after the initial shock of a situation, we realize that it was the best thing that could have happened to us; I can think of many instances where this is true, I bet you can too. In a heartbeat, your whole world can be different. Start to be in the moment each day and in each interesting and non-interesting thing that happens throughout your day. Embrace change.
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My name is Dawn. I'm nutritional & lifestyle coach, hairstylist, home cook, writer, blogger, mother, friend. Archives
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